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Refuting Kafirgirls’ attacks on the Prophet Muhammad’s marriages [Part 3]

Posted in Refutation of Kafir Girl's "Hadith analysis." by muslimsuperhero on May 2, 2010


Part three of my refutation of Kafirgirls attack on the Prophet Muhammad’s marriages. So sit back, relax, and read away.


Her first point: She writes: Mohammed married Juwariya bint al-Harith when he was 58. She was 20. Are you noticing a pattern here? She was a total hottie. Again with the pattern.

Rebuttal: Her insinuation that Muhammad [saas] was marrying for lust or worldly desire will be dealt with in the conclusion of these rebuttals, so be sure and keep checking back.


Her second point: She writes:

The story of how she came to marry Mohammed is really interesting:


Sahih Muslim, Book 019, Number 4292:

Ibn ‘Aun reported: I wrote to Nafi’ inquiring from him whether it was necessary to extend (to the disbelievers) an invitation to accept (Islam) before m”. ing them in fight. He wrote (in reply) to me that it was necessary in the early days of Islam. The Messenger of Allah (may peace be upon him) made a raid upon Banu Mustaliq while they were unaware and their cattle were having a drink at the water. He killed those who fought and imprisoned others. On that very day, he captured Juwairiya bint al-Harith. Nafi’ said that this tradition was related to him by Abdullah b. Umar who (himself) was among the raiding troops.


That’s right: Mohammed launched a “surprise attack” against Bani Mustaliq while they were grazing their cattle. They killed any man that tried to fight, and they took the women and children as war booty. Juwariya was the chief’s daughter, and Mohammed “got” her on that day. Nice strategy. Way more efficient than mine. I “got” my husband when I clubbed him over the head and dragged him by the hair all the way back to my cave.


Here’s another hadith that tells you the same thing:


Sahih Bukhari, Volume 3, Book 46, Number 717:

Narrated Ibn Aun:

I wrote a letter to Nafi and Nafi wrote in reply to my letter that the Prophet had suddenly attacked Bani Mustaliq without warning while they were heedless and their cattle were being watered at the places of water. Their fighting men were killed and their women and children were taken as captives; the Prophet got Juwairiya on that day. Nafi said that Ibn ‘Umar had told him the above narration and that Ibn ‘Umar was in that army.


Get this: Juwariya was already married. Her husband was killed in that battle. But that night, Mohammed “got” her. [expletive deleted]. My brain hurts.


Rebuttal: As usual, she has omitted several facts which are needed to gain a well-balanced portrait of the entire situation.

As of right now there is a fairly balanced Wikipedia article on Juwayriya bin al Harith. I will be quoting from it.

The first point to be noted is that the Banu Mustaliq, the tribe from which Juwayriya is from, was a pagan tribe which was in the process of planning an unprovoked attack against the Muslims. The Muslims thus offensively attacked in order to minimize the amount of casualties.

As per our Sacred Law, once a tribe becomes hostile and is willing to murder Muslims for no other reason than their faith, then they are to be given only two options by the Muslim army: Accept Islam and cease hostilities, or fight. The Banu Mustaliq were given this option, and chose the latter, and demonstrated this by immediately killing a Muslim soldier. [It should be noticed that this was still at the negotiation stage when they began their attack on the Muslim army; they could have easily tried a counter offer or attempted to come to some other amicable agreement as previous tribes had done. However, their response was only violence. It appears that this tribe has such a dirty and rabble-rousing attitude that Muhammad (saas) made the right decision in attacking them first].

From wikipedia: After minimal casualties, the Muslim forces were victorious. Among the many captives was Juwayriya, whose husband, Mustafa bin Safwan, had been killed in the battle. She initially fell among the booty of Muhammad’s companion Thabit b. Qays b. Al-Shammas. Troubled by this, Juwayriya sought a deed of redemption from Muhammad. Muhammad proposed to marry her and as a result freed her from the bondage of Thabit b. Qais and consequently ameliorated the condition of her captured tribe.

The point is, she was once the daughter of a tribal chieftan, and was now facing the humiliation of being a prisoner of war. The Prophet [saas] made her an offer of marriage. The function of this marriage served at least three purposes: One was to free her from bondage. The second reason was to elevate her status, as she was accostamed to being reverred and honored due to her previous position in her former tribe. Had the Prophet [who, at this time was respected and powerful in Arabia] not married her, she surely would have been humiliated for the rest of her life, and lived in the most abject fashion. Instead she was given the great honor of being the wife of the current ruler of Arabia, the wife of a Prophet, and the wife of a great warrior… all considered highly honorable in 7th century Arabia. The third reason behind the marriage was to resolve the animosity that the surviving members of banu Mustaliq had felt after the war with and subsequent defeat by the Muslims.

Furthermore, it was a great act of mercy, clemency, and sympathy on behalf of our Prophet Muhammad [saas]. The entire account is summarized beautifully in the book “Great Woman of Islam” by Mahmood Ahmad Ghadanfar:


“At the first opportunity [after her capture] she went to the Prophet, and pleaded her case with him. She told him that she was the daughter of a chieftain and used to command. Because of her unfortunate circumstance she found herself in this helpless position. From a throne made of gold she had fallen into dust. …How could she possibly live the life as a slave? She pleaded with the Prophet, to take notice of the pitiful and desperate condition in which she found herself.

The Prophet, was moved by her sorrowful plea and asked her if she would like to live as a free woman and be part of his household if he paid her ransom. She had never in her dreams expected this offer. Moved deeply by this unexpected elevation in her status, she exclaimed she would be more than happy to accept.”


It’s also worth mentioning that, yet again there is no indication whatsoever that Juwayriya was displeased with the arrangement at all. There is not a single statement to be found from her where she is angry or upset with the Prophet Muhammad [saas]. In fact, we only find the contrary. She related hadith to Muslims after his death [including a famous hadith in Sahih Muslim about a certain zikr (litany) that the Prophet Muhammad taught her], and it is mentioned that she was very pious and spent most of her time engrossed in prayer. [Ghadanfar, p.110].


Her third point: She writes:

Safiyya bint Huyayy is the 9th woman on this list. She was another war captive, a 17 year old married girl captured from the Banu Nadir tribe. Her husband, father and brother were all killed by Mohammed’s men at Khaibar. Check out how her husband was killed:


From Ibn Hisham’s “The Life of The Prophet,” via Wikipedia:

Kinana al-Rabi, who had the custody of the treasure of Banu Nadir, was brought to the apostle who asked him about it. He denied that he knew where it was. A Jew came (Tabari says “was brought”), to the apostle and said that he had seen Kinana going round a certain ruin every morning early. When the apostle said to Kinana, “Do you know that if we find you have it I shall kill you?” He said “Yes”. The apostle gave orders that the ruin was to be excavated and some of the treasure was found. When he asked him about the rest he refused to produce it, so the apostle gave orders to al-Zubayr Al-Awwam, “Torture him until you extract what he has.” So he kindled a fire with flint and steel on his chest until he was nearly dead. Then the apostle delivered him to Muhammad b. Maslama and he struck off his head, in revenge for his brother Mahmud.


They set a …fire on his chest. He was tortured till he was nearly dead, and then he had his head lobbed off. All on Mohammed’s orders.


Sahih Bukhari, Volume 2, Book 14, Number 68:

Narrated Anas bin Malik:

Allah’s Apostle (p.b.u.h) offered the Fajr prayer when it was still dark, then he rode and said, ‘Allah Akbar! Khaibar is ruined. When we approach near to a nation, the most unfortunate is the morning of those who have been warned.” The people came out into the streets saying, “Muhammad and his army.” Allah’s Apostle vanquished them by force and their warriors were killed; the children and women were taken as captives. Safiya was taken by Dihya Al-Kalbi and later she belonged to Allah’s Apostle go who married her and her Mahr was her manumission.


Safiyya was taken by a soldier named Dihya Al-Kalbi. But when Mohammed heard how smoking hot (apologies to her husband) she was, he decided to pay 7 slaves to purchase her from him. …Safiyya was Jewish. But not for long. She was, of course, converted to Islam. Her dowry was her freedom. Wow. That totally makes up for taking her captive!


Response: A hadith in Sahih Bukhari explains as to what actually happened:


“We conquered Khaibar, took the captives, and the booty was collected. Dihya came and said, ‘O Allah’s Prophet! Give me a slave girl from the captives.’ The Prophet said, ‘Go and take any slave girl.’ He took Safiya bint Huyai. A man came to the Prophet and said, ‘O Allah’s Messenger! You gave Safiya bint Huyai to Dihya and she is the chief mistress of the tribes of Quraiza and An-Nadir and she befits none but you.’ So the Prophet said, ‘Bring him along with her.’ So Dihya came with her and when the Prophet saw her, he said to Dihya, ‘Take any slave girl other than her from the captives.’ Anas added: The Prophet then manumitted her and married her.” Thabit asked Anas, “O Abu Hamza! What did the Prophet pay her (as Mahr)?” He said, “Her self (i.e. freedom) was her Mahr (dower) for he manumitted her and then married her.” Anas added, “While on the way, Um Sulaim dressed her for marriage (ceremony) and at night she sent her as a bride to the Prophet. So the Prophet was a bridegroom and he said, ‘Whoever has anything (food) should bring it.’ He spread out a leather sheet (for the food) and some brought dates and others cooking butter. (I think he (Anas) mentioned As-Sawiq). So they prepared a dish of Hais (a kind of meal). And that was Walima (the marriage banquet) of Allah’s Messenger (pbuh).” (Bukhari, Hadith 358)


As to the question whether Sayyidah Safiya (RA) was willing for the marriage to take place or not, no body’s conjecture but her own words can make things clear. The following narration explains in detail:


“When Safiya came to the Holy Prophet (pbuh), he said to her; ‘Among the Jews your father did not stop in his enmity towards me until Allah destroyed him.’ She said: ‘O Allah’s Messenger! Indeed Allah says in His book, ‘No one will take anyone else’s burden’. So the Holy Prophet (PBUH) said to her: ‘Make your choice, if you will chose Islam I’ll select you for myself and if you chose Judaism, I’ll set you free and send you to your people.’ She said; ‘O Allah’s Messenger indeed I longed for Islam and testified for you even before you gave me this invitation when I came to you. I have no guardian among the Jews, neither father nor brother and I prefer Islam over disbelief. Allah and His Messenger are more dear to me than freedom and to return to my people.”” (Ibn Saad 8/123)


Taking together all the narrations about this event, we come to know that Safiya (RA) had a feeling of affection for the Prophet (pbuh) before they met (Tabarani 19667). When her father and husband were killed in the battle she developed some feeling of hatred for the Prophet (PBUH) for natural reasons but when the Prophet (PBUH) explained to her what all her father did to him (Tabarani 19668) she realized that her father met such an end because of his own deeds (Ibn Saad 8/123) and so her ill feelings for the Prophet (PBUH) completely vanished and she was left with the feelings of love for the Prophet (pbuh) that the All-Wise and Almighty had put in her heart through a previous dream (Tabarani 19667 & 19668).

If the lady herself agreed that her family was a family of tyrants which deserved their fate, and if the lady herself believed the Prophet [saas] to be kind and gentle, who are we to disagree with her?

[For more on this, you can check out the wonderful job that the fellas at Let me turn the tables blogspot did on exposing this common baseless attack on the Prophet Muhammad -may the peace, blessings, and mercy of Allah be upon him- I also suggest reading the article they did about relations with slave-girls according to Islam].


…Part four coming soon, so keep checking back if ye be true fans of the Muslim Superhero!


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